There’s No Tit For Tat In The “Lesbians Touch A Penis” Video

A video of lesbians touching a penis for the first time has been doing the rounds recently.

The piece comes courtesy of BriaandChrissy – a pair of lesbians with a YouTube channel who regularly present material that “promote equality”. For example, they had blindfolded people kiss and try to guess whether the kisser a boy or a girl. And a month before they published a clip where gay men feel a woman’s boobs for the first time.

Lesbians Touch Penis For The First Time is, on its face, innocuous. The reactions of the young women are charming and pretty much what you’d expect. “It feels like Play-Doh that’s been warmed up.” “It’s a little bit like a noodle but not the noodle you play in the water with but the noodle you get at an Italian restaurant.”

The male reactions in the earlier Gay Men Touch Boobs For The First Time were equally amusing and again expected – “Like if you’ve ever poked a jellyfish with a stick” – yet also unexpected – “Like a pumpkin that you get on Halloween but after it’s molded over”.

In their videos Bria and Chrissy themselves come across as sweet and charming and I can’t fault their intent. Demystifying body parts can only lead to more thoughtful humans and the world could certainly do with less misogyny and, its opposite, misandry.

But I have a deep uneasiness with this latest penis video. Part of it can be attributed to the differences between the two “touch” videos themselves.

First, the woman being touched by the gay men is clothed – they feel the boob through at least two layers of garments. But the male model pulls down his pants allowing the lesbians to feel the penis unclothed. Not just that, for some reason he also takes off his shirt, meaning he’s pretty much naked. So, keeping score, the woman used in the first video is fully dressed, the man fully naked.

Second, the two pieces seem to be designed as bookends, one for each gender. Except the logical bookend for Gay Men Touch Boobs For the First Time is actually Lesbians Touch A Man’s Chest For the First Time.

These differences might be easy to explain. Perhaps the makers weren’t able to find a woman prepared to show her breasts. Perhaps it’s just a logistical issue – viewing boobs (upper body) vs penis (lower body). Perhaps they thought “lesbians feel a penis” would get them more attention. Perhaps they just realised they could get away with more nudity, and thus gain more clicks, with the guy.

It’s not just the differences that make me uneasy – that I can chalk up to a couple of idealistic but perhaps naïve performers. I’m far more concerned with the way the wider media has reacted.   Outlets have picked up and shared the latest video with relish – always presenting it as humor.

We live in a world where a society in which the touching of men by women is almost exclusively treated as a joke – touching, sexual assault, even rape is all just good fun.

In TV’s Glee, for example, the character of Tina has a crush on gay boy Blaine so while he’s passed out she unbuttons his shirt and massages his chest with vapor rub. Tina suffers no consequences and it’s actually joked about by the characters. In the movie 40 Days and 40 Nights, Josh Hartnett’s lead character is raped by a woman. Did I mention that this movie is a “romantic comedy”? In Get Him To The Greek, another comedy, Jonah Hill’s character is sexually assaulted by a woman. He even tells the others “I think I’ve just been raped”. But it’s treated as nothing but a joke.

Now imagine these scenes if the genders had been reversed or if the perpetrator had been a man. Suddenly, it’s not comedy, it’s serious drama.

I’m not saying what happened in the penis video is sexual assault. The male model clearly consented. But it does betray the gender double standard around “touching”, where women touching men is always treated as acceptable and harmless.

As proof consider whether we will next see a video from BriaandChrissy, or someone else, where gay men get up close and personal with a vagina, structured in the same was as the penis video.

I won’t be holding my breath for Gay Men Touch A Vagina For The First Time. Because there’s “amusing clickbait” and then there’s “a step too far”. It risks creating a mammoth backlash, cries that it contributes to “rape culture”. Media certainly wouldn’t share it as humor – they’d shame it instead.

Update: I’ve seen enough reality television that I should know there’s little people won’t do to get attention. I said BriaandChrissy wouldn’t make Gay Men Touch a Vagina For the First Time but they just did. And, of course, I wrote about it.

In ONE MILLION DOMS Dominic Sheehan comments about political stuff. Yes, the title is a parody of One Million Moms. Yes, he has no doubt some people think these videos are just “a bit of fun”. No, he wouldn’t describe a penis as “Play Doh that’s been warmed up”.  Yes, he would describe it as “a penis”.

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